It's no secret that the end of 2011 is coming to a close and many take time to reflect and look back on the year around the holidays. Looking at how far you have come can help you set your goals for the following year. Setting your goals for the upcoming year is useful but don't forget to take the time to thank those who helped you along the way in 2011. While sending out your holiday greetings, take several moments to thank those who have helped you personally or professionally during the past year.
When making out your list of people to thank, think of the following questions:
Who Really Helped Me Grow In My Professional Career During 2011?
Take a few moments to think of network contacts, people at work, or anyone else who helped you grow in your profession during the past year. Chances are, there was someone who helped you develop your skill set or helped you grow in your current position.
Who Really Helped You Grow As A Person In Your Personal Life?
I know I have a lot of people to thank in this category. A couple of friends of mine really helped me grow as a person in my personal life and I am grateful for the help they provided. Take a few moments to look back on those who have helped develop as a person. This may be someone who helped you with a personal relationship, be more comfortable with others or introduced you to a hobby.
Who Went Out Of His Or Her Way To Do Something Special?
Was there someone who included you in a special event? Was there someone who invited you to his or her wedding or let you be apart of the wedding party? Was there someone who went out of his or her way so you could participate in an event or hobby? These are some questions you can ask yourself when trying to come up with people for this category.
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Wednesday, December 14, 2011
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Rules for Meeting a New Person (Can Also Be Used for Dating)
Whether it is for business or for personal reasons, meeting new people is essential in life. Taking the time to develop relationships with others can be beneficial for business and in your personal life.
Below are some tips to use when meeting someone for the first time (for those of you interest in dating, these rules can apply as well):
1) Take the Time to Listen to the Other Person - It's easy to provide someone with your own personal verbal autobiography, however, that doesn't show an interest in the person you are trying to build a relationship with. The other person will probably become bored easily and will not want to further the relationship. Instead of talking about yourself, take the time to listen to what the other person has to say.
2) Show an Interest in the Other Person - Take the time to learn about the other person's interests, passions in life, goals, hobbies, etc. This will make the other person feel more comfortable with you and will make for a better conversation.
3) Eye Contact - When you don't look at the other person in the eye, he or she will notice. You may not think so but eye contact can be very important.
4) Be Respectful to the Other Person and Those Around You At the Time of the Meeting - This may sound obvious but being disrespectful to the other person or those around you at the time of the meeting can be a huge turn off. Small things such as a cell phone or pager going off, constantly texting during the meeting, or answering a call during the meeting can be a turn off to someone. If the person is taking time out of his or her day to meet you, be respectful and do not make the person feel like you aren't willing to pay attention to the conversation.
Below are some tips to use when meeting someone for the first time (for those of you interest in dating, these rules can apply as well):
1) Take the Time to Listen to the Other Person - It's easy to provide someone with your own personal verbal autobiography, however, that doesn't show an interest in the person you are trying to build a relationship with. The other person will probably become bored easily and will not want to further the relationship. Instead of talking about yourself, take the time to listen to what the other person has to say.
2) Show an Interest in the Other Person - Take the time to learn about the other person's interests, passions in life, goals, hobbies, etc. This will make the other person feel more comfortable with you and will make for a better conversation.
3) Eye Contact - When you don't look at the other person in the eye, he or she will notice. You may not think so but eye contact can be very important.
4) Be Respectful to the Other Person and Those Around You At the Time of the Meeting - This may sound obvious but being disrespectful to the other person or those around you at the time of the meeting can be a huge turn off. Small things such as a cell phone or pager going off, constantly texting during the meeting, or answering a call during the meeting can be a turn off to someone. If the person is taking time out of his or her day to meet you, be respectful and do not make the person feel like you aren't willing to pay attention to the conversation.
Saturday, August 13, 2011
Small Manners Can Go A Long Way
As we were growing up, we were probably taught the importance of saying "please," "thank you," and "your welcome" when someone went out of his or her way to do something polite for you. As we got older, we also learned the importance of taking the time to say "thank you" via a card or e-mail to someone who may have helped us along the way. These manners are simple but minding them in key situations can go a long way.
When you have done a favor for someone, have you ever noticed what it feels like when the person you helped does not say "thank you?" Have you gone out of your way to assist someone with an event and not receive any gratitude at all? If this has happened to you, you probably would not be as inclined to help this person again because of the lack of effort shown to express gratitude for your help and assistance. All it could have taken this person was a small thank you note to show gratitude and you would feel different about the situation at that time.
Even when you don't think manners are important, put yourself in the other person's shoes. For example, if a guy was on a date with a girl, how do you think the girl would feel if the guy didn't open the door for her? On the flip side, how do you think the guy would feel if his date didn't say thank you for opening the door or gave him dirty looks for doing so? How do you think one would feel if the date completely ignored the other person and didn't show any appreciation towards the effort being given by the other person to be polite? In cases like this, the smallest of manners can mean a lot and can make a difference.
Below are some tips that can be used in multiple situations whether it is networking, business or even dating:
1) Be Polite To Those Around You - For example, when you are at a restaurant, there is a difference between asking your server for a glass of water and demanding it. You will catch more flies with honey if you politely ask, "Excuse, when you have a moment, could you please get me a glass of water?" then you will with "Go get me a glass of water!" This plus taking a couple of minutes to ask how someone's day is going can help a lot.
2) Opening Doors Can Go A Long Way - It sounds simple but I'll admit I don't feel right if I don't open the door for someone or at least look back to see if someone is behind me when I am about to go into someplace. Taking a few moments to open the door for someone (gentleman, pay attention) can really mean a lot to someone.
3) If You Choose To Spend Time With Someone, Do Not Ignore That Other Person- I know this one sounds bizarre and obvious but you would be surprised how hurtful it can be when someone you want to spend time with just blows you off or doesn't pay attention to you. For example, if you are a high school or college student and if you decide to take a date to a dance or formal, take the time to talk with that person throughout the night, spend time with that person and ask him or her to dance (this last one is key). Imagine how that person will feel if you don't take the time to talk to him or her or offer to take them on the dance floor during that night. Chances are, that person will feel hurt that you didn't spend time with him or her (trust me on this one) and will have the night ruined because of it.
4) The Importance Of "Thank You" - They are only two words and they are simple to say. Make sure to say thank you in situations where it is necessary and don't forget to show your gratitude.
When you have done a favor for someone, have you ever noticed what it feels like when the person you helped does not say "thank you?" Have you gone out of your way to assist someone with an event and not receive any gratitude at all? If this has happened to you, you probably would not be as inclined to help this person again because of the lack of effort shown to express gratitude for your help and assistance. All it could have taken this person was a small thank you note to show gratitude and you would feel different about the situation at that time.
Even when you don't think manners are important, put yourself in the other person's shoes. For example, if a guy was on a date with a girl, how do you think the girl would feel if the guy didn't open the door for her? On the flip side, how do you think the guy would feel if his date didn't say thank you for opening the door or gave him dirty looks for doing so? How do you think one would feel if the date completely ignored the other person and didn't show any appreciation towards the effort being given by the other person to be polite? In cases like this, the smallest of manners can mean a lot and can make a difference.
Below are some tips that can be used in multiple situations whether it is networking, business or even dating:
1) Be Polite To Those Around You - For example, when you are at a restaurant, there is a difference between asking your server for a glass of water and demanding it. You will catch more flies with honey if you politely ask, "Excuse, when you have a moment, could you please get me a glass of water?" then you will with "Go get me a glass of water!" This plus taking a couple of minutes to ask how someone's day is going can help a lot.
2) Opening Doors Can Go A Long Way - It sounds simple but I'll admit I don't feel right if I don't open the door for someone or at least look back to see if someone is behind me when I am about to go into someplace. Taking a few moments to open the door for someone (gentleman, pay attention) can really mean a lot to someone.
3) If You Choose To Spend Time With Someone, Do Not Ignore That Other Person- I know this one sounds bizarre and obvious but you would be surprised how hurtful it can be when someone you want to spend time with just blows you off or doesn't pay attention to you. For example, if you are a high school or college student and if you decide to take a date to a dance or formal, take the time to talk with that person throughout the night, spend time with that person and ask him or her to dance (this last one is key). Imagine how that person will feel if you don't take the time to talk to him or her or offer to take them on the dance floor during that night. Chances are, that person will feel hurt that you didn't spend time with him or her (trust me on this one) and will have the night ruined because of it.
4) The Importance Of "Thank You" - They are only two words and they are simple to say. Make sure to say thank you in situations where it is necessary and don't forget to show your gratitude.
Sunday, August 7, 2011
The Importance of Saying Hello and Being Friendly
How many times have you been at a restaurant where the person serving you did not show much interest in you? Have you been at restaurants where the server didn't respond to you trying to make small talk or really say much?
Chances are, we have all been in a situation where the person serving us at a restaurant, coffee bar or other establishment did not take the time to make small talk or seem interested in getting to know you. After this, you may have felt as if the person did not care or wanted to be at his or her job that day.
In certain situations, taking the time to make small talk with the people you come in contact can not only make someone's day but might make that person more responsive to you later on. Taking a few minutes to be friendly and asking how the other person's day is going can make a difference.
For example, as a photographer for Solon High School Football, I will often try and make small talk with the people who work the gates at the games, work the sidelines or talk to the police officers there. I don't have to say hello to these people, however, it makes a difference when someone is taking a couple of minutes to say "Hey, how are you doing?" or "How is your day going?" Taking a few moments to say hello to these people makes me a friendlier face and can make people more responsive and receptive to you later on.
When you are out and about at places you frequent often whether it is bars, restaurants or coffee shops, take a few minutes to say hello to the people serving you and ask about his or her day. You don't have to play a game of "20 Questions" but take some time to ask how the day is going, how long he or she has been there, or if a lot of people have come through. Take the time to listen to the answers and try and get a small conversation going. It might sound hard but if you take the time and listen and ask, you shouldn't have a problem getting something going.
In most every day situations, you don't have to say hello to others and be friendly but taking the time to do so can help you stand out from the rest for positive reasons.
Chances are, we have all been in a situation where the person serving us at a restaurant, coffee bar or other establishment did not take the time to make small talk or seem interested in getting to know you. After this, you may have felt as if the person did not care or wanted to be at his or her job that day.
In certain situations, taking the time to make small talk with the people you come in contact can not only make someone's day but might make that person more responsive to you later on. Taking a few minutes to be friendly and asking how the other person's day is going can make a difference.
For example, as a photographer for Solon High School Football, I will often try and make small talk with the people who work the gates at the games, work the sidelines or talk to the police officers there. I don't have to say hello to these people, however, it makes a difference when someone is taking a couple of minutes to say "Hey, how are you doing?" or "How is your day going?" Taking a few moments to say hello to these people makes me a friendlier face and can make people more responsive and receptive to you later on.
When you are out and about at places you frequent often whether it is bars, restaurants or coffee shops, take a few minutes to say hello to the people serving you and ask about his or her day. You don't have to play a game of "20 Questions" but take some time to ask how the day is going, how long he or she has been there, or if a lot of people have come through. Take the time to listen to the answers and try and get a small conversation going. It might sound hard but if you take the time and listen and ask, you shouldn't have a problem getting something going.
In most every day situations, you don't have to say hello to others and be friendly but taking the time to do so can help you stand out from the rest for positive reasons.
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Meeting People On A Date- Some Helpful Tips
While writing my last post, I couldn't help but think how some of the tips I had to building friendships and relationships can apply to dating as well. The situations are a little bit different but some of the same concepts can apply.
When on a date, it's important to take time to get to know the other person, be polite and be relaxed. Below are some of the same tips I had in my last post but how they can apply to dating:
1) Take Time To Get to Know the Other Person and Avoid Giving Your Own Verbal Autobiography - When dating someone, take the time to get to know the other person rather then provide your whole life story on the first date. Take time to get to know what the other person enjoys doing, his or her passions and interests. The key is to learn more about the other person and learn more about him or her to develop the relationship.
2) We Were Given Two Ears and One Mouth so We Can Listen Twice as Much as We Talk - I know I mentioned this in my last post but it does apply here as well. Listen to the other person when on your date and learn more about him or her. Talking too much could end up in monopolizing the conversation and may bore your date. Take the time to listen, learn more about the other person and you will be able to hold a conversation more easily then if you don't listen.
3) Make Eye Contact - If you don't make eye contact, people will notice. Eye contact is something that I have struggled with at times and people have noticed it when I didn't! Make sure to make eye contact with your date.
4) Relax- Going on a date for the first time can be a little nerve racking, however, being more relaxed will help you listen better, learn more about the other person and hold a conversation more easily.
5) Be Polite to the Person Serving You - No matter where you are at with your date, be polite to the people around you and serving you as well. For example, if you are at a restaurant, be polite to your server. Being impolite, impatient, or disrespectful could be a huge turnoff and may eliminate any chances of getting a future date with the person you are with. Treat the person who is your server as a friend and with respect. There is a big difference between saying "Hey server, get me a glass of water!" and "Excuse, when you have a moment, could I have another glass of water please?" and your date will know that as well.
6) If Possible, Turn Off Your Cell Phone and Avoid Looking at Messages or Calls When Sitting With the Person - Personally, I hate talking on my cell phone when I am with someone else and prefer to have it completely turned off so that any call will go straight to my voicemail and not be a distraction during the date. You can always respond to the message later but you can't always get a second chance with a person you ignored because you took a phone call or text message during the date.
7) Don't Be Down On Yourself If A Date Doesn't Work Out- We all have had dates that didn't quite work out or have gone out on dates with people we didn't feel a connection with during the interaction. It can be hard to take sometimes but don't take it personally and realize there are other people out there. If a date doesn't work out, be respectful to that person, don't blast him or her on Twitter, Facebook or in other forms of media and remember to respect his or her feelings. It's better to move on then to go out of your way to hurt someone else's feelings over a date that didn't work out. Even if you don't go out with this person again or become friends, the person will remember if you were polite and respectful.
When on a date, it's important to take time to get to know the other person, be polite and be relaxed. Below are some of the same tips I had in my last post but how they can apply to dating:
1) Take Time To Get to Know the Other Person and Avoid Giving Your Own Verbal Autobiography - When dating someone, take the time to get to know the other person rather then provide your whole life story on the first date. Take time to get to know what the other person enjoys doing, his or her passions and interests. The key is to learn more about the other person and learn more about him or her to develop the relationship.
2) We Were Given Two Ears and One Mouth so We Can Listen Twice as Much as We Talk - I know I mentioned this in my last post but it does apply here as well. Listen to the other person when on your date and learn more about him or her. Talking too much could end up in monopolizing the conversation and may bore your date. Take the time to listen, learn more about the other person and you will be able to hold a conversation more easily then if you don't listen.
3) Make Eye Contact - If you don't make eye contact, people will notice. Eye contact is something that I have struggled with at times and people have noticed it when I didn't! Make sure to make eye contact with your date.
4) Relax- Going on a date for the first time can be a little nerve racking, however, being more relaxed will help you listen better, learn more about the other person and hold a conversation more easily.
5) Be Polite to the Person Serving You - No matter where you are at with your date, be polite to the people around you and serving you as well. For example, if you are at a restaurant, be polite to your server. Being impolite, impatient, or disrespectful could be a huge turnoff and may eliminate any chances of getting a future date with the person you are with. Treat the person who is your server as a friend and with respect. There is a big difference between saying "Hey server, get me a glass of water!" and "Excuse, when you have a moment, could I have another glass of water please?" and your date will know that as well.
6) If Possible, Turn Off Your Cell Phone and Avoid Looking at Messages or Calls When Sitting With the Person - Personally, I hate talking on my cell phone when I am with someone else and prefer to have it completely turned off so that any call will go straight to my voicemail and not be a distraction during the date. You can always respond to the message later but you can't always get a second chance with a person you ignored because you took a phone call or text message during the date.
7) Don't Be Down On Yourself If A Date Doesn't Work Out- We all have had dates that didn't quite work out or have gone out on dates with people we didn't feel a connection with during the interaction. It can be hard to take sometimes but don't take it personally and realize there are other people out there. If a date doesn't work out, be respectful to that person, don't blast him or her on Twitter, Facebook or in other forms of media and remember to respect his or her feelings. It's better to move on then to go out of your way to hurt someone else's feelings over a date that didn't work out. Even if you don't go out with this person again or become friends, the person will remember if you were polite and respectful.
Meeting People For the First Time- Some Helpful Tips
Meeting new people is important in developing relationships and your personal and professional network. Being able to build friendships and relationships is important in life and can help build a support network when needed.
For some, meeting someone for the first time can be intimidating and nerve-racking. Making a first impression is important but is not as hard as you think.
Below are some tips for making the most out of meeting someone for the first time:
1) Take Time To Know The Other Person and Avoid Giving Your Own Verbal Autobiography - Monopolizing the conversation and only talking about yourself could be a turn off right away and might even bore the other person. Take time to find out what his or her interests are, what passions he or she might have and his or her interests. Take time to get to know the other person rather then re-living your entire life in just one conversation. It will show you are interested in getting to know the other person and not promoting yourself.
2) We Were Given Two Ears and One Mouth So We Could Listen Twice as Often as We Talk - Before my senior year of college, a network contact of mine (who I still keep in touch with to this day) mentioned this to me and it really resonated with me. Take the time to listen to the other person in conversation. By listening, you will know what to ask next, learn more about the person sitting across the table from you and be able to hold a conversation better. You will be able to find more to talk about and know more about the person in the end.
3) Make Eye Contact - I'll admit that I have trouble with this one at times and it is more noticeable then you think. If you aren't making eye contact, people will notice. Not making eye contact could be a turn off to some people. Make sure to make eye contact with the person and it may even help you listen better.
4) Be Relaxed - This one might be hard to do but relax when sitting down with someone for the first time. Meeting new people is something that will never change in life and be relaxed and calm during the first meeting. Being uptight could make it difficult to listen, hold a conversation or learn more about that person.
For some, meeting someone for the first time can be intimidating and nerve-racking. Making a first impression is important but is not as hard as you think.
Below are some tips for making the most out of meeting someone for the first time:
1) Take Time To Know The Other Person and Avoid Giving Your Own Verbal Autobiography - Monopolizing the conversation and only talking about yourself could be a turn off right away and might even bore the other person. Take time to find out what his or her interests are, what passions he or she might have and his or her interests. Take time to get to know the other person rather then re-living your entire life in just one conversation. It will show you are interested in getting to know the other person and not promoting yourself.
2) We Were Given Two Ears and One Mouth So We Could Listen Twice as Often as We Talk - Before my senior year of college, a network contact of mine (who I still keep in touch with to this day) mentioned this to me and it really resonated with me. Take the time to listen to the other person in conversation. By listening, you will know what to ask next, learn more about the person sitting across the table from you and be able to hold a conversation better. You will be able to find more to talk about and know more about the person in the end.
3) Make Eye Contact - I'll admit that I have trouble with this one at times and it is more noticeable then you think. If you aren't making eye contact, people will notice. Not making eye contact could be a turn off to some people. Make sure to make eye contact with the person and it may even help you listen better.
4) Be Relaxed - This one might be hard to do but relax when sitting down with someone for the first time. Meeting new people is something that will never change in life and be relaxed and calm during the first meeting. Being uptight could make it difficult to listen, hold a conversation or learn more about that person.
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Saying Hello Can Go A Long Way
Ask yourself this; when you go into your local coffeeshop, how often do you really ask the person who is getting your coffee how his or her day is going?
Better yet, when you go to one of your favorite restaurants, how often do you take the time to ask your server or the people at the front desk how their days are going?
Now ask yourself this; how do you think it would make them feel if you took a few moments to ask that question?
Taking a few moments to ask people how their days are going can go a little further then you might think. It's not often that people take a few moments to ask the person filling the coffee cup, taking the order, etc. how his or her day may be going. Taking those few moments to ask could help set you apart from others in a positive way.
During my time at Otterbein College (now University), taking a few moments to ask the people working in the bookstore, the cafeteria, the local coffeeshop, and even the library made me a familiar and more friendly face. I noticed that not many people took time to ask these workers how their days were going and it meant a lot when someone took the time to do so. As a result, I was able to make more friends on campus and became a polite and friendly face to these people.
Even though taking a few moments can be meaningful, not everyone may be interested in talking to you. If it happens, don't give up! Take time to keep saying hello to others you come across on your daily routine and you might be surprised what happens.
As you go through your daily routine, remember to take a few moments to say hello and you may end up with a few new friends and become a friendlier face.
Better yet, when you go to one of your favorite restaurants, how often do you take the time to ask your server or the people at the front desk how their days are going?
Now ask yourself this; how do you think it would make them feel if you took a few moments to ask that question?
Taking a few moments to ask people how their days are going can go a little further then you might think. It's not often that people take a few moments to ask the person filling the coffee cup, taking the order, etc. how his or her day may be going. Taking those few moments to ask could help set you apart from others in a positive way.
During my time at Otterbein College (now University), taking a few moments to ask the people working in the bookstore, the cafeteria, the local coffeeshop, and even the library made me a familiar and more friendly face. I noticed that not many people took time to ask these workers how their days were going and it meant a lot when someone took the time to do so. As a result, I was able to make more friends on campus and became a polite and friendly face to these people.
Even though taking a few moments can be meaningful, not everyone may be interested in talking to you. If it happens, don't give up! Take time to keep saying hello to others you come across on your daily routine and you might be surprised what happens.
As you go through your daily routine, remember to take a few moments to say hello and you may end up with a few new friends and become a friendlier face.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Looking To Getting To Know Someone Means Taking Time To Get To Know Them
Meeting new people can be exciting but can also be nerve racking at the same time. Making a first impression is important but being over anxious or self-absorbed can be a turn off. When meeting someone new, making a wrong impression can be a turn off and may make it hard for someone to want to get to know you.
When meeting someone new, there is one big secret way to get them interested in talking to you, which is taking the time to listen and getting to know the other person.
During opportunities in which you could meet new people, it can be easy to provide your own verbal autobiography but it might not get you very far. Instead of telling people about yourself, take time to get to know the other person and his or her interests. Taking an interest in what the other person enjoys or is passionate about will get the person interested in talking to you and want to keep a conversation going.
A recent example I can provide on how to effectively do this is when I had dinner with someone who worked part time at a salon. Prior to this meeting, I didn't know this person worked at a salon and when it came up in conversation, I saw my opportunity. When I asked this person what it was like to work part time at the salon, the type of people she met, and how she started working there, she opened up during the conversation and felt comfortable talking to me throughout the evening.
In this example, I took the time to take interest in another person and began to inquire about something she was passionate about and enjoyed doing. As a result of this, I was able to have a great conversation with her and still have a great friendship with her to this day.
When you meet someone new, take time to find out what this person enjoys doing, his or her hobbies and what the person is passionate about in life. You don't have to make it a game of "20 Questions" but slowly show interest, inquire, and listen to the other person. By listening and showing interest, you will be able to hold a conversation, make the other person comfortable while talking to you and develop a relationship. Remember to listen, inquire and enjoy!
When meeting someone new, there is one big secret way to get them interested in talking to you, which is taking the time to listen and getting to know the other person.
During opportunities in which you could meet new people, it can be easy to provide your own verbal autobiography but it might not get you very far. Instead of telling people about yourself, take time to get to know the other person and his or her interests. Taking an interest in what the other person enjoys or is passionate about will get the person interested in talking to you and want to keep a conversation going.
A recent example I can provide on how to effectively do this is when I had dinner with someone who worked part time at a salon. Prior to this meeting, I didn't know this person worked at a salon and when it came up in conversation, I saw my opportunity. When I asked this person what it was like to work part time at the salon, the type of people she met, and how she started working there, she opened up during the conversation and felt comfortable talking to me throughout the evening.
In this example, I took the time to take interest in another person and began to inquire about something she was passionate about and enjoyed doing. As a result of this, I was able to have a great conversation with her and still have a great friendship with her to this day.
When you meet someone new, take time to find out what this person enjoys doing, his or her hobbies and what the person is passionate about in life. You don't have to make it a game of "20 Questions" but slowly show interest, inquire, and listen to the other person. By listening and showing interest, you will be able to hold a conversation, make the other person comfortable while talking to you and develop a relationship. Remember to listen, inquire and enjoy!
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
Building Friendships Starts With Getting To Know Others
During your college years and even beyond, developing friendships inside and outside of the business world is key. Having a network of professional and personal contacts can help you become more rounded, be beneficial at key times and having others to enjoy your successes with. One of the biggest keys to building friendships is taking the time to getting to know others, their interests and their passions.
When you first meet someone new, it is easy to start discussing your goals, your hobbies and your passions. This will help the other person understand what you are about, however, it could also be a turn off at times. You might appear to be self-absorbed and not willing to learn about someone else by spending too much time talking about yourself.
During your first couple interactions with someone new, take time to learn about the person standing or sitting across from you. Take time to learn about his or her passions, interests and hobbies in life. You will end up having a better conversation, will develop trust with that person and it will mean a lot that you are showing an interest in someone else.
Once you have developed trust in a relationship, find a way to keep in touch with that person via e-mail, phone numbers, Facebook, etc. You don't need to call, e-mail or send a text message every day to develop the relationship; just a casual e-mail, phone call on the way home from work or quick text message will do the trick.
In addition to keeping in touch, find time to socialize with one another. If you two enjoy meeting for coffee, find a local coffee shop to hang out at once a month. If you two enjoy sporting events, make a point to go to a game when you two have the chance. By socializing with that person, you will develop the relationship and get to know the person even better.
Throughout life, having a vast network of friends is beneficial and the first step to building these relationships is taking the time to know others. Take time to learn about someone else, his or her passions and keep in touch. It will build trust and a lasting relationship.
When you first meet someone new, it is easy to start discussing your goals, your hobbies and your passions. This will help the other person understand what you are about, however, it could also be a turn off at times. You might appear to be self-absorbed and not willing to learn about someone else by spending too much time talking about yourself.
During your first couple interactions with someone new, take time to learn about the person standing or sitting across from you. Take time to learn about his or her passions, interests and hobbies in life. You will end up having a better conversation, will develop trust with that person and it will mean a lot that you are showing an interest in someone else.
Once you have developed trust in a relationship, find a way to keep in touch with that person via e-mail, phone numbers, Facebook, etc. You don't need to call, e-mail or send a text message every day to develop the relationship; just a casual e-mail, phone call on the way home from work or quick text message will do the trick.
In addition to keeping in touch, find time to socialize with one another. If you two enjoy meeting for coffee, find a local coffee shop to hang out at once a month. If you two enjoy sporting events, make a point to go to a game when you two have the chance. By socializing with that person, you will develop the relationship and get to know the person even better.
Throughout life, having a vast network of friends is beneficial and the first step to building these relationships is taking the time to know others. Take time to learn about someone else, his or her passions and keep in touch. It will build trust and a lasting relationship.
Monday, February 7, 2011
Taking Time to Know Others: Another Lesson in Building Rapport!
In order to build a relationship with someone, time has to be spent towards getting to know the other person and his or her interests, passions, etc. Taking time to get to know someone may sound hard but if done properly, can lead to a great friendship and awesome memories. By taking a few simple steps, a great relationship can be started by getting to know the other person.
By taking time to know someone else, you are giving a reason for the other person to trust you and develop a relationship. When you first meet someone new, it might be easy to provide your own verbal autobiography, however, it's better to show an interest in the other person and learn more about him or her. Taking time to boast about yourself may be a turnoff to some and may come across the wrong way. Taking time to show you want to learn about someone else can help develop a relationship and start a great conversation.
If you are new to a company, taking a few moments to get to know the people you will be working with can help develop trust and relationships with your coworkers. Distracting them during their daily routine may not always be the best way to develop a conversation but taking time to sit with them during lunchtime or taking a few moments to say hello before the day gets started can help. Take a few moments to say hello to these people, learn about their interests and passions and it will mean a lot that you are showing an interest in getting to know other people.
If you are on a college campus, taking time to say hello to those you come across on a regular basis and getting to know these people can help as well. During my freshman year at Otterbein, I started calling the basketball games for the Otterbein women's basketball team for the campus radio and TV stations and became friends with the girls because they took the time to get to know who I was. Outside of basketball, a lot of the girls on the team would take time to say hello to me on the way to class, in the lunchroom and even in the library and the focus wasn't on my announcing or the game; a lot of these girls took time to get to know me as a person! As a result, I developed some great friendships out of this that continued through to my senior year and beyond. It meant a lot to me that these girls took time to know me as a person and I was able to build great friendships as a result of this kindness.
Getting to know someone may take a little time, however, it isn't as hard as it seems. By taking time to know the person sitting across from you or those you interact with, you can develop trust and relationships through this method.
By taking time to know someone else, you are giving a reason for the other person to trust you and develop a relationship. When you first meet someone new, it might be easy to provide your own verbal autobiography, however, it's better to show an interest in the other person and learn more about him or her. Taking time to boast about yourself may be a turnoff to some and may come across the wrong way. Taking time to show you want to learn about someone else can help develop a relationship and start a great conversation.
If you are new to a company, taking a few moments to get to know the people you will be working with can help develop trust and relationships with your coworkers. Distracting them during their daily routine may not always be the best way to develop a conversation but taking time to sit with them during lunchtime or taking a few moments to say hello before the day gets started can help. Take a few moments to say hello to these people, learn about their interests and passions and it will mean a lot that you are showing an interest in getting to know other people.
If you are on a college campus, taking time to say hello to those you come across on a regular basis and getting to know these people can help as well. During my freshman year at Otterbein, I started calling the basketball games for the Otterbein women's basketball team for the campus radio and TV stations and became friends with the girls because they took the time to get to know who I was. Outside of basketball, a lot of the girls on the team would take time to say hello to me on the way to class, in the lunchroom and even in the library and the focus wasn't on my announcing or the game; a lot of these girls took time to get to know me as a person! As a result, I developed some great friendships out of this that continued through to my senior year and beyond. It meant a lot to me that these girls took time to know me as a person and I was able to build great friendships as a result of this kindness.
Getting to know someone may take a little time, however, it isn't as hard as it seems. By taking time to know the person sitting across from you or those you interact with, you can develop trust and relationships through this method.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
Developing Friendships Can Help Open Up New Opportunities
At all stages of life, having friends who will stand beside you, be in your corner and be there for you will help you get through different points in your life. Having people who will be with you through the good times and the rough will always provide a sense of comfort and enjoyment to your life. Having these people in your life is always something to be grateful for and developing these relationships can help pave the way for opportunities.
If you are a college student, take time to get to know the people in your dorm, the people you participate in other activities with, the people in your Greek Life organization, etc. You may never know how you will meet some of your best friends during these four years and take time to develop some of these relationships that are meaningful to you. Take time to help these people out, support them and give them a reason to develop the friendship with you.
During those four years, you may never know where you will meet some of your best friends. I met one of my best friends from college while watching an Ohio State football game in the lounge of the dorm, met another while doing a community service project that wasn't quite what I had expected, and became close friends with others who stood behind me at key times and I naturally clicked with. There will be times in which you know you will develop a deeper friendship with someone and these will be the friendships that will last for a long time beyond your college years. Don't be surprised if the friendship starts in the most unexpected place or instance; take time to let it grow.
Beyond your college years, take time to develop relationships with those you meet during networking events, other social functions and different events. Similar to your college years, some of your best friendships may develop through unexpected paths. I met a good friend of mine while at my dad's company picnic one year (we both found out we enjoy hockey a lot), have met some other friends through networking events, and have developed a relationship with others through mutual connections. If you feel a great friendship can develop, take time to learn more about these people, enjoy common interests and let these relationships grow.
Having friends in life is a must but finding them and letting them grow is important. Some of the best friendships may come out of the most unexpected places but can create a friendship that can last a long time.
If you are a college student, take time to get to know the people in your dorm, the people you participate in other activities with, the people in your Greek Life organization, etc. You may never know how you will meet some of your best friends during these four years and take time to develop some of these relationships that are meaningful to you. Take time to help these people out, support them and give them a reason to develop the friendship with you.
During those four years, you may never know where you will meet some of your best friends. I met one of my best friends from college while watching an Ohio State football game in the lounge of the dorm, met another while doing a community service project that wasn't quite what I had expected, and became close friends with others who stood behind me at key times and I naturally clicked with. There will be times in which you know you will develop a deeper friendship with someone and these will be the friendships that will last for a long time beyond your college years. Don't be surprised if the friendship starts in the most unexpected place or instance; take time to let it grow.
Beyond your college years, take time to develop relationships with those you meet during networking events, other social functions and different events. Similar to your college years, some of your best friendships may develop through unexpected paths. I met a good friend of mine while at my dad's company picnic one year (we both found out we enjoy hockey a lot), have met some other friends through networking events, and have developed a relationship with others through mutual connections. If you feel a great friendship can develop, take time to learn more about these people, enjoy common interests and let these relationships grow.
Having friends in life is a must but finding them and letting them grow is important. Some of the best friendships may come out of the most unexpected places but can create a friendship that can last a long time.
Sunday, January 30, 2011
Take Time To Say Thanks To Those Who Have Helped You Along The Way
No matter where you are at in your life, whether you are a college student looking to get a career started or a seasoned professional deep into a career, chances are, someone helped you along the way. This assistance could have come in many different forms and probably helped get you to where you are at now. If someone has helped you along the way, taking time to say thank you will help strengthen the relationship with that person and show kindness as well.
If someone has done you a favor or helped you along the way, saying thank you can help build and strengthen that relationship with that person. Taking a few moments to show your appreciation will prove to that person you cared about his or her time, you appreciated the assistance and you care enough to take a few moments to show gratitude. Not taking the time to say thank you could leave a bad impression with that person and make them wonder if he or she should help you again in the future.
Whenever you sit down to network with someone, taking a few moments to send a thank you e-mail or handwritten thank you note could be key to building that relationship and maintaining that contact. It shows the other person you appreciated his or her time, you are interested in the advice and will help you stand out from those who don't say thank you. This same technique can also be done with job interviews and sometimes that can be a deciding factor in whether or not someone will bring you in for another interview or even a job offer. A small thank you note can mean a lot to someone and could help keep your foot in the door for an opportunity.
On a personal level, there are probably people who have helped you along the way with matters outside of your job. This could come in the form of helping out with a personal relationship (or dating), helping with a job around the house, or being there in times of trouble or personal matters. Taking a few moments to say thank you to those people can help build these relationships as well.
In these instances, sending a thank you note can be done but you can also take it to another level if this person is a friend. Sometimes including a gift card to a favorite restaurant, movie tickets, or other gift card is a nice way to show appreciation as well. It serves as a pleasant surprise and really demonstrates to the other person that his or her help was appreciated.
Whether it's your professional or personal life, someone has probably helped you along the way and it's always best to give thanks. It will show the other person the kindness was appreciated, provide reason to continue and develop that relationship, and provide other opportunities down the line.
If someone has done you a favor or helped you along the way, saying thank you can help build and strengthen that relationship with that person. Taking a few moments to show your appreciation will prove to that person you cared about his or her time, you appreciated the assistance and you care enough to take a few moments to show gratitude. Not taking the time to say thank you could leave a bad impression with that person and make them wonder if he or she should help you again in the future.
Whenever you sit down to network with someone, taking a few moments to send a thank you e-mail or handwritten thank you note could be key to building that relationship and maintaining that contact. It shows the other person you appreciated his or her time, you are interested in the advice and will help you stand out from those who don't say thank you. This same technique can also be done with job interviews and sometimes that can be a deciding factor in whether or not someone will bring you in for another interview or even a job offer. A small thank you note can mean a lot to someone and could help keep your foot in the door for an opportunity.
On a personal level, there are probably people who have helped you along the way with matters outside of your job. This could come in the form of helping out with a personal relationship (or dating), helping with a job around the house, or being there in times of trouble or personal matters. Taking a few moments to say thank you to those people can help build these relationships as well.
In these instances, sending a thank you note can be done but you can also take it to another level if this person is a friend. Sometimes including a gift card to a favorite restaurant, movie tickets, or other gift card is a nice way to show appreciation as well. It serves as a pleasant surprise and really demonstrates to the other person that his or her help was appreciated.
Whether it's your professional or personal life, someone has probably helped you along the way and it's always best to give thanks. It will show the other person the kindness was appreciated, provide reason to continue and develop that relationship, and provide other opportunities down the line.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Taking Time To Know Others: A Key To Building Relationships
Throughout life, there will always be opportunities to meet new people but sometimes we only get one chance to make a good first impression. Making a solid good first impression can lead to developing a relationship with that person later on. Building that relationship from that first meeting starts with taking time to learn about the other person.
Whenever you meet someone new, it is easy to want to provide your own verbal autobiography or talk a lot about yourself. While this may interest the other person a bit, doing it too much may also be a turn off. The key to getting to know the other person is to ask questions about them and learn about his or her interests and passions.
When asking someone to talk about him or herself, the goal is not to make it a game of 20 questions; it's to slowly learn about that person without getting too personal or making the other person feel like he or she is being interrogated. Take it slow, find small tidbits about hobbies, interests or small pieces of information and go from there.
During certain events in which you meet new people such as networking events, it's not always easy to know who is going to be there beforehand. The key to these situations is listen to what the person says and ask about a couple of specific points.
For example, if someone says he or she does volunteer work on the side, you can ask if they volunteer with an organization, what they enjoy about it and how he or she started volunteering. That way, it develops a conversation, gets the other person to talk about his or her interests and gives you the opportunity to learn about someone else. It's an opportunity to learn about someone else's passion and provides them a reason to keep talking to you.
Even though it sounds easy, it does take a little practice but there are different ways you can practice. If you are a college student, you can try having a small conversation with the people who work in the local coffee shop, the people who take care of you at the bookstore, the library, etc. When you are at the checkout line, take a few minutes to ask the person at the counter how his or her day is going and you might be surprised as to what you can find out. It might not be often that someone takes a few minutes to get to know these people and will help you stand out.
Building relationships in life is key and the first step is to take time to know the other person. Take time to listen, understand his or her interests and learn about them so you can build trust and that relationship.
Whenever you meet someone new, it is easy to want to provide your own verbal autobiography or talk a lot about yourself. While this may interest the other person a bit, doing it too much may also be a turn off. The key to getting to know the other person is to ask questions about them and learn about his or her interests and passions.
When asking someone to talk about him or herself, the goal is not to make it a game of 20 questions; it's to slowly learn about that person without getting too personal or making the other person feel like he or she is being interrogated. Take it slow, find small tidbits about hobbies, interests or small pieces of information and go from there.
During certain events in which you meet new people such as networking events, it's not always easy to know who is going to be there beforehand. The key to these situations is listen to what the person says and ask about a couple of specific points.
For example, if someone says he or she does volunteer work on the side, you can ask if they volunteer with an organization, what they enjoy about it and how he or she started volunteering. That way, it develops a conversation, gets the other person to talk about his or her interests and gives you the opportunity to learn about someone else. It's an opportunity to learn about someone else's passion and provides them a reason to keep talking to you.
Even though it sounds easy, it does take a little practice but there are different ways you can practice. If you are a college student, you can try having a small conversation with the people who work in the local coffee shop, the people who take care of you at the bookstore, the library, etc. When you are at the checkout line, take a few minutes to ask the person at the counter how his or her day is going and you might be surprised as to what you can find out. It might not be often that someone takes a few minutes to get to know these people and will help you stand out.
Building relationships in life is key and the first step is to take time to know the other person. Take time to listen, understand his or her interests and learn about them so you can build trust and that relationship.
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Building Relationships Can Start With Finding Common Ground
Taking time to build relationships is key and can be done in several different ways. Taking time to keep in touch and learning about others are a couple of different ways to build relationships but finding common ground and interests can be an excellent way to develop a relationship with someone. Finding a hobby or common interest with someone can lead to building a stronger relationship with that person.
When trying to develop a relationship with someone, finding a common interest is a great starting point for finding time to bond and socialize with that person. For example, I am a huge hockey fan and one really good friend of mine shares the same passion for the game. When I first met this person, we found this common ground and built our relationship by going to games with one another. During this time, I was able to socialize with my friend, learn more about him and have developed a great friendship with him as a result. We often go to games each year and have a great friendship as a result of that.
Even though sports can be a common ground, other interests can help create similar friendships. For example, if you have an interest in fishing and come across someone with that same interest, going out for a fishing outing with this person can be a great way to develop that friendship. If you enjoy scrapbooking, inviting someone with that same interest to a scrapbooking party can help you create a stronger bond with that person. The sky is the limit and finding that common ground with a particular hobby can be a great way to develop that relationship.
Finding common ground is key in develop a relationship but taking time to enjoy it with another person can help strengthen that friendship for the future. Whether your interest is in sports, fishing, photography or anything else, finding that common ground can pave the path for developing that relationship.
When trying to develop a relationship with someone, finding a common interest is a great starting point for finding time to bond and socialize with that person. For example, I am a huge hockey fan and one really good friend of mine shares the same passion for the game. When I first met this person, we found this common ground and built our relationship by going to games with one another. During this time, I was able to socialize with my friend, learn more about him and have developed a great friendship with him as a result. We often go to games each year and have a great friendship as a result of that.
Even though sports can be a common ground, other interests can help create similar friendships. For example, if you have an interest in fishing and come across someone with that same interest, going out for a fishing outing with this person can be a great way to develop that friendship. If you enjoy scrapbooking, inviting someone with that same interest to a scrapbooking party can help you create a stronger bond with that person. The sky is the limit and finding that common ground with a particular hobby can be a great way to develop that relationship.
Finding common ground is key in develop a relationship but taking time to enjoy it with another person can help strengthen that friendship for the future. Whether your interest is in sports, fishing, photography or anything else, finding that common ground can pave the path for developing that relationship.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Taking Time To Learn About Others is Key in Building Relationships
In business and in your personal life, having relationships and friends can provide support and encouragement. It's important to have those who will be in your corner, lend a shoulder to cry on when needed and be a good sounding board when you need one. Relationships can be beneficial and can be built by taking the time to learn about the other person.
As a way to build a relationship with someone, it's important to take time to learn about the person sitting across from you instead of giving them your verbal autobiography. Taking time to understand the other person's interests, needs, and values shows you care and provides reason for the relationship to develop. Showing an interest in what's important to the person you are building a relationship with will set you apart from so many other people.
Developing relationships and taking time to learn about others does take practice but can be done. You can practice by talking to your neighbors at home. the people you work with, the people you interact with at your favorite restaurants or coffee shops, etc. When you interact with these people, take time to show interest in their day, what they are currently up to and you might be surprised how a conversation and relationship can develop.
During my college years, one of the ways I practiced learning about others is by taking time to ask the cafeteria people, my classmates, my professors, the people who worked in the bookstore, etc. how their days were going and listening to what these people had to say. By taking time to simply ask, "Are you having a good day?" or "What have you been up to lately?" and listening to their responses, it set me apart because I took time to show I cared about the person I was asking the question to. It made me a more familiar and friendly face on campus and I was able to make a lot of friends as a result of this.
Building relationships is key but how you go about doing it is important as well. Take time to learn about others and it can open up more doors then you can imagine.
As a way to build a relationship with someone, it's important to take time to learn about the person sitting across from you instead of giving them your verbal autobiography. Taking time to understand the other person's interests, needs, and values shows you care and provides reason for the relationship to develop. Showing an interest in what's important to the person you are building a relationship with will set you apart from so many other people.
Developing relationships and taking time to learn about others does take practice but can be done. You can practice by talking to your neighbors at home. the people you work with, the people you interact with at your favorite restaurants or coffee shops, etc. When you interact with these people, take time to show interest in their day, what they are currently up to and you might be surprised how a conversation and relationship can develop.
During my college years, one of the ways I practiced learning about others is by taking time to ask the cafeteria people, my classmates, my professors, the people who worked in the bookstore, etc. how their days were going and listening to what these people had to say. By taking time to simply ask, "Are you having a good day?" or "What have you been up to lately?" and listening to their responses, it set me apart because I took time to show I cared about the person I was asking the question to. It made me a more familiar and friendly face on campus and I was able to make a lot of friends as a result of this.
Building relationships is key but how you go about doing it is important as well. Take time to learn about others and it can open up more doors then you can imagine.
Tuesday, July 27, 2010
Saying Hello and Taking Time To Know Others: A Lesson From NHL Star Mark Messier
"How are you doing today?"
When going into your office or workplace everyday, how difficult is it to ask that to those who work with you? Asking someone how his or her day is going is really not difficult to do and can help build your relationship and trust with that person.
On a daily basis, you can simply go into your office or workplace and not really take the time to get to know your teammates and others that work in your office. You can simply go in, do what you have to do, and leave for the day but how can you build relationships with these people if you don't take the time to get to know them? If you come across as if you don't care, how do you expect these people to respond to you when you need them the most?
Taking a few minutes to get to talk to others isn't as hard as it seems. Simply saying, "Hello, how are you doing?" to others you work with and listening to the responses can really mean a lot to the person you are conversing with. It's not everyday that someone within your management team will say hello and get to know the people who work alongside you or at other parts of the company so saying hello and taking time to know the person you are talking to can make a difference.
Being a lifelong hockey fan, one of the best examples I can provide is what NHL Legend and Hall of Famer Mark Messier (pronounced Mess-EE-ay) did when he was a member of the New York Rangers. Messier knew he could just walk into the practice rink or Madison Square Garden on a nightly basis and not really talk to anyone but his teammates. He simply could have walked in, did what he had to do, and walked out at the end of the day but he didn't.
While serving as team captain, Messier took time everyday to say hello to those who worked in the Rangers front office, Madison Square Garden and many others as he walked into and out of the arena. Messier understood that taking time out of his day to ask others how their days were going showed he cared. These people felt more comfortable around Messier and found it easier to talk to this NHL Legend because he took the time to know them as people and showed he cared. As a result, Messier is still considered to be on of the most beloved New York Ranger and NHL players of all time because off his willingness to learn about others and show he cared.
Taking time out of your day to know others isn't that difficult and it will show others you work with that you care. Sparing just a few minutes of your day to check in on how another worker or person is doing can make a difference and build a relationship with that person. You can practice by asking the people working in your local coffee shop, favorite restaurant or other gathering places how their days are going and you will be surprised how meaningful it is to them that you are taking time to get to know them. Once you do that, take time at work to do the same and you will start to see a difference.
When going into your office or workplace everyday, how difficult is it to ask that to those who work with you? Asking someone how his or her day is going is really not difficult to do and can help build your relationship and trust with that person.
On a daily basis, you can simply go into your office or workplace and not really take the time to get to know your teammates and others that work in your office. You can simply go in, do what you have to do, and leave for the day but how can you build relationships with these people if you don't take the time to get to know them? If you come across as if you don't care, how do you expect these people to respond to you when you need them the most?
Taking a few minutes to get to talk to others isn't as hard as it seems. Simply saying, "Hello, how are you doing?" to others you work with and listening to the responses can really mean a lot to the person you are conversing with. It's not everyday that someone within your management team will say hello and get to know the people who work alongside you or at other parts of the company so saying hello and taking time to know the person you are talking to can make a difference.
Being a lifelong hockey fan, one of the best examples I can provide is what NHL Legend and Hall of Famer Mark Messier (pronounced Mess-EE-ay) did when he was a member of the New York Rangers. Messier knew he could just walk into the practice rink or Madison Square Garden on a nightly basis and not really talk to anyone but his teammates. He simply could have walked in, did what he had to do, and walked out at the end of the day but he didn't.
While serving as team captain, Messier took time everyday to say hello to those who worked in the Rangers front office, Madison Square Garden and many others as he walked into and out of the arena. Messier understood that taking time out of his day to ask others how their days were going showed he cared. These people felt more comfortable around Messier and found it easier to talk to this NHL Legend because he took the time to know them as people and showed he cared. As a result, Messier is still considered to be on of the most beloved New York Ranger and NHL players of all time because off his willingness to learn about others and show he cared.
Taking time out of your day to know others isn't that difficult and it will show others you work with that you care. Sparing just a few minutes of your day to check in on how another worker or person is doing can make a difference and build a relationship with that person. You can practice by asking the people working in your local coffee shop, favorite restaurant or other gathering places how their days are going and you will be surprised how meaningful it is to them that you are taking time to get to know them. Once you do that, take time at work to do the same and you will start to see a difference.
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