Looking To Getting To Know Someone Means Taking Time To Get To Know Them

Meeting new people can be exciting but can also be nerve racking at the same time. Making a first impression is important but being over anxious or self-absorbed can be a turn off. When meeting someone new, making a wrong impression can be a turn off and may make it hard for someone to want to get to know you.

When meeting someone new, there is one big secret way to get them interested in talking to you, which is taking the time to listen and getting to know the other person.

During opportunities in which you could meet new people, it can be easy to provide your own verbal autobiography but it might not get you very far. Instead of telling people about yourself, take time to get to know the other person and his or her interests. Taking an interest in what the other person enjoys or is passionate about will get the person interested in talking to you and want to keep a conversation going.

A recent example I can provide on how to effectively do this is when I had dinner with someone who worked part time at a salon. Prior to this meeting, I didn't know this person worked at a salon and when it came up in conversation, I saw my opportunity. When I asked this person what it was like to work part time at the salon, the type of people she met, and how she started working there, she opened up during the conversation and felt comfortable talking to me throughout the evening.

In this example, I took the time to take interest in another person and began to inquire about something she was passionate about and enjoyed doing. As a result of this, I was able to have a great conversation with her and still have a great friendship with her to this day.

When you meet someone new, take time to find out what this person enjoys doing, his or her hobbies and what the person is passionate about in life. You don't have to make it a game of "20 Questions" but slowly show interest, inquire, and listen to the other person. By listening and showing interest, you will be able to hold a conversation, make the other person comfortable while talking to you and develop a relationship. Remember to listen, inquire and enjoy!