While writing my last post, I couldn't help but think how some of the tips I had to building friendships and relationships can apply to dating as well. The situations are a little bit different but some of the same concepts can apply.
When on a date, it's important to take time to get to know the other person, be polite and be relaxed. Below are some of the same tips I had in my last post but how they can apply to dating:
1) Take Time To Get to Know the Other Person and Avoid Giving Your Own Verbal Autobiography - When dating someone, take the time to get to know the other person rather then provide your whole life story on the first date. Take time to get to know what the other person enjoys doing, his or her passions and interests. The key is to learn more about the other person and learn more about him or her to develop the relationship.
2) We Were Given Two Ears and One Mouth so We Can Listen Twice as Much as We Talk - I know I mentioned this in my last post but it does apply here as well. Listen to the other person when on your date and learn more about him or her. Talking too much could end up in monopolizing the conversation and may bore your date. Take the time to listen, learn more about the other person and you will be able to hold a conversation more easily then if you don't listen.
3) Make Eye Contact - If you don't make eye contact, people will notice. Eye contact is something that I have struggled with at times and people have noticed it when I didn't! Make sure to make eye contact with your date.
4) Relax- Going on a date for the first time can be a little nerve racking, however, being more relaxed will help you listen better, learn more about the other person and hold a conversation more easily.
5) Be Polite to the Person Serving You - No matter where you are at with your date, be polite to the people around you and serving you as well. For example, if you are at a restaurant, be polite to your server. Being impolite, impatient, or disrespectful could be a huge turnoff and may eliminate any chances of getting a future date with the person you are with. Treat the person who is your server as a friend and with respect. There is a big difference between saying "Hey server, get me a glass of water!" and "Excuse, when you have a moment, could I have another glass of water please?" and your date will know that as well.
6) If Possible, Turn Off Your Cell Phone and Avoid Looking at Messages or Calls When Sitting With the Person - Personally, I hate talking on my cell phone when I am with someone else and prefer to have it completely turned off so that any call will go straight to my voicemail and not be a distraction during the date. You can always respond to the message later but you can't always get a second chance with a person you ignored because you took a phone call or text message during the date.
7) Don't Be Down On Yourself If A Date Doesn't Work Out- We all have had dates that didn't quite work out or have gone out on dates with people we didn't feel a connection with during the interaction. It can be hard to take sometimes but don't take it personally and realize there are other people out there. If a date doesn't work out, be respectful to that person, don't blast him or her on Twitter, Facebook or in other forms of media and remember to respect his or her feelings. It's better to move on then to go out of your way to hurt someone else's feelings over a date that didn't work out. Even if you don't go out with this person again or become friends, the person will remember if you were polite and respectful.
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