Taking the time to build a relationship can be helpful and it must be done properly. There are instances in which having a key relationship can help and being able to build it will help later on. Being able to meet someone is the first step but taking the time to build that relationship is even more important.
Below are some tips on building a relationship with someone:
1) Take the Time to Listen- It's easy to provide someone with your own verbal autobiography during the first meeting, however, that will likely bore the other person and prohibit a relationship from developing. Take the time to listen to the other person in the conversation and inquire more. You don't need to interrogate the other person but take the time to listen and show an interest
2) Find a Common Way to Keep in Touch - Someone prefer phone calls, others prefer e-mails, some prefer texts, the list goes on. Take the time to find a way to keep in touch with the person and find the method that will work for him or her. You don't have to bombard someone with multiple e-mails, texts or calls to get a response. Find the method that works best and remember to be patient.
3) If Possible, Try and Find Common Ground - It's not always easy to find common ground with someone and in some instances, you may not have anything in common with the other person. If you can, try and find a common interest or passion. It will not only serve as a conversation starter but opportunities to build that relationship.
4) Be Respectful to the Other Person - This does sound obvious but realize that certain comments or reacting a certain way to someone's comment could be a turnoff. Be respectful to the other person's beliefs, positions, backgrounds, etc. when developing a relationship. Make sure to be open minded as well.
Sunday, November 27, 2011
Sunday, November 6, 2011
Rules for Meeting a New Person (Can Also Be Used for Dating)
Whether it is for business or for personal reasons, meeting new people is essential in life. Taking the time to develop relationships with others can be beneficial for business and in your personal life.
Below are some tips to use when meeting someone for the first time (for those of you interest in dating, these rules can apply as well):
1) Take the Time to Listen to the Other Person - It's easy to provide someone with your own personal verbal autobiography, however, that doesn't show an interest in the person you are trying to build a relationship with. The other person will probably become bored easily and will not want to further the relationship. Instead of talking about yourself, take the time to listen to what the other person has to say.
2) Show an Interest in the Other Person - Take the time to learn about the other person's interests, passions in life, goals, hobbies, etc. This will make the other person feel more comfortable with you and will make for a better conversation.
3) Eye Contact - When you don't look at the other person in the eye, he or she will notice. You may not think so but eye contact can be very important.
4) Be Respectful to the Other Person and Those Around You At the Time of the Meeting - This may sound obvious but being disrespectful to the other person or those around you at the time of the meeting can be a huge turn off. Small things such as a cell phone or pager going off, constantly texting during the meeting, or answering a call during the meeting can be a turn off to someone. If the person is taking time out of his or her day to meet you, be respectful and do not make the person feel like you aren't willing to pay attention to the conversation.
Below are some tips to use when meeting someone for the first time (for those of you interest in dating, these rules can apply as well):
1) Take the Time to Listen to the Other Person - It's easy to provide someone with your own personal verbal autobiography, however, that doesn't show an interest in the person you are trying to build a relationship with. The other person will probably become bored easily and will not want to further the relationship. Instead of talking about yourself, take the time to listen to what the other person has to say.
2) Show an Interest in the Other Person - Take the time to learn about the other person's interests, passions in life, goals, hobbies, etc. This will make the other person feel more comfortable with you and will make for a better conversation.
3) Eye Contact - When you don't look at the other person in the eye, he or she will notice. You may not think so but eye contact can be very important.
4) Be Respectful to the Other Person and Those Around You At the Time of the Meeting - This may sound obvious but being disrespectful to the other person or those around you at the time of the meeting can be a huge turn off. Small things such as a cell phone or pager going off, constantly texting during the meeting, or answering a call during the meeting can be a turn off to someone. If the person is taking time out of his or her day to meet you, be respectful and do not make the person feel like you aren't willing to pay attention to the conversation.
Sunday, October 30, 2011
Taking Time to Volunteer Can Help AYou Meet People
No matter how old you are, taking the time to meet other people is always essential. Getting out of the apartment or house and meeting new people is a great way to create balance in life and give you something to look forward to. It provides us an opportunity to make new friends and other contacts in life. One of the best ways to meet new people is through volunteer work.
Even though it can be a lot of work, volunteer work provides different opportunities to meet new people and can come in many different variations. When volunteering, you have an opportunity to meet and work with new people and there are different projects you can become involved with. Some people enjoy doing charity work, some enjoy working at local food banks and hospitals, some coach local sports teams, etc. There is a wide range of volunteer work you can do and the opportunities to meet new people is always plentiful.
Outside of work, I enjoy volunteering my time to take pictures at Solon High School football games and sporting events. It not only provides me an opportunity to do the type of photography I love but have had a great time meeting the people who work and attend these events. I have enjoyed meeting the parents, athletic directors, coaches, band directors and different members of the media. Taking time on a regular basis to do this has given me the opportunity to meet others and enjoy something I love.
When doing your volunteer work, take the time to say hello to others and don't afraid to introduce yourself. It's easy to walk in, do what you are assigned to do and walk out without saying hello, however, it will leave a better impression if you take a few minutes to say hello those you are working with.
For example, whenever I take pics at a Solon High football game, I take the time to say hello to the various people who attend and work at the games. I take the time to say hello to the people working the gates, the people working the sideline markers on the field, the coaches (usually after the game), and other members of the media. That way, it provides these people with a friendly face for future games and shows an interest in them.
By taking the time to volunteer, you are making an effort to meet new people.
Even though it can be a lot of work, volunteer work provides different opportunities to meet new people and can come in many different variations. When volunteering, you have an opportunity to meet and work with new people and there are different projects you can become involved with. Some people enjoy doing charity work, some enjoy working at local food banks and hospitals, some coach local sports teams, etc. There is a wide range of volunteer work you can do and the opportunities to meet new people is always plentiful.
Outside of work, I enjoy volunteering my time to take pictures at Solon High School football games and sporting events. It not only provides me an opportunity to do the type of photography I love but have had a great time meeting the people who work and attend these events. I have enjoyed meeting the parents, athletic directors, coaches, band directors and different members of the media. Taking time on a regular basis to do this has given me the opportunity to meet others and enjoy something I love.
When doing your volunteer work, take the time to say hello to others and don't afraid to introduce yourself. It's easy to walk in, do what you are assigned to do and walk out without saying hello, however, it will leave a better impression if you take a few minutes to say hello those you are working with.
For example, whenever I take pics at a Solon High football game, I take the time to say hello to the various people who attend and work at the games. I take the time to say hello to the people working the gates, the people working the sideline markers on the field, the coaches (usually after the game), and other members of the media. That way, it provides these people with a friendly face for future games and shows an interest in them.
By taking the time to volunteer, you are making an effort to meet new people.
Saturday, October 22, 2011
Two Tips For Getting To Know Someone
Taking the time to get to know someone my be an intimidating process and nerve racking. If it is someone you would really like to know personally such as a good business contact or on the personal side, a date, being nervous and wanting to make a good first impression is natural. Making a wrong impression could set things in the wrong direction and close the door in the future. Making the right impression can be done with two simple tips; taking the time to listen and showing an interest in the other person.
When meeting someone for the first time, it is easy to fall into one of the biggest traps in a conversation, which is giving someone your own verbal autobiography. It's easy to want to tell someone all of your accomplishments, hobbies and passions in life, however, doing too much of it could bore the other person. Spending too much time on yourself could set things in the wrong direction.
During your initial encounter, take time to listen to the other person. While it may sound obvious, not listening will make it harder to have a conversation and make it hard to get to know someone. Take the time to listen to what the other person has to say, how he or she answers your questions and listen to the responses. By listening, it will give you other areas to talk about and make for a better conversation.
In addition to listening, show an interest in the other person. It's one thing to listen to someone but showing an interest in someone else will help make for a better conversation as well. Listen to the responses and show an interest in what the other person has to say.
On a recent trip to St. Louis to visit my sister, I had an opportunity to meet a lot of her friends I had not met before and had to utilize both tips when conversing with them at parties. In one instance, I met someone who plays in the same orchestra my sister plays in on the side.
During this conversation, I took the time to listen to what this person had to say and showed an interest in her responses. I'm not a classical music buff but didn't need to have a conversation with her about it. By taking the time to listen and show interest, I was able to learn how she got started playing viola, how long she has been playing for, how she got started with the same orchestra my sister is apart of and the different concert venues the orchestra uses. With very little knowledge on classical music, I was still able to have a conversation with this person because I took the time to listen to her and showed an interest in what she had to say.
While meeting someone for the first time can be nerve racking, taking the time to listen and show an interest can help lay the foundation for a great conversation.
When meeting someone for the first time, it is easy to fall into one of the biggest traps in a conversation, which is giving someone your own verbal autobiography. It's easy to want to tell someone all of your accomplishments, hobbies and passions in life, however, doing too much of it could bore the other person. Spending too much time on yourself could set things in the wrong direction.
During your initial encounter, take time to listen to the other person. While it may sound obvious, not listening will make it harder to have a conversation and make it hard to get to know someone. Take the time to listen to what the other person has to say, how he or she answers your questions and listen to the responses. By listening, it will give you other areas to talk about and make for a better conversation.
In addition to listening, show an interest in the other person. It's one thing to listen to someone but showing an interest in someone else will help make for a better conversation as well. Listen to the responses and show an interest in what the other person has to say.
On a recent trip to St. Louis to visit my sister, I had an opportunity to meet a lot of her friends I had not met before and had to utilize both tips when conversing with them at parties. In one instance, I met someone who plays in the same orchestra my sister plays in on the side.
During this conversation, I took the time to listen to what this person had to say and showed an interest in her responses. I'm not a classical music buff but didn't need to have a conversation with her about it. By taking the time to listen and show interest, I was able to learn how she got started playing viola, how long she has been playing for, how she got started with the same orchestra my sister is apart of and the different concert venues the orchestra uses. With very little knowledge on classical music, I was still able to have a conversation with this person because I took the time to listen to her and showed an interest in what she had to say.
While meeting someone for the first time can be nerve racking, taking the time to listen and show an interest can help lay the foundation for a great conversation.
Monday, October 17, 2011
Being Able to Do Something You Love No Matter What...Priceless
The wind was blowing and there was a chance of rain when I walked into the Twinsburg high school football stadium on Friday night for the Twinsburg vs Solon matchup. I had heard showers might be on the way, the wind was going to pick up and that the night was going to be a cool, fall evening in middle October. I was dressed in layers, had my hiking boots on and a camera on my side. I could hear the wind tussling and saw the skies darken but I wasn't afraid of the bad weather that was predicted to come.
Since I was a freshman in high school, I have spent numerous Friday nights walking into stadiums on nights like this one to watch a game. I've sat through rain, sleet, snow, and cold temperatures over the years. I've been through brutal weather before and this particular night was looking to be a cold evening on the sidelines.
Even though I knew it was going to be a cold night with the wind blowing and a chance of rain, I wasn't afraid. I knew the risk I was taking by being out there and had my cowboy hat, my hooded sweatshirt, a warm coat and my hiking boots to protect me from the elements.
Best of all, I had one a companion that has seen lots of weather like this over the years and was happy it was with me. That companion was my camera.
When I looked at the weather reports, I could have easily skipped the game and stayed home but I didn't want to. Even when the weather is poor, I love being able to see a great Friday night football game in person and on the sidelines. By adding on my passion of photography on top of it, I always have something to look forward to on Friday night and cannot wait to catch the game.
While the wind blew and the cold set in, I was happy standing on the sideline with my camera in hand to catch the game. Being able to participate in an activity I love at a function I enjoy going to makes it easy for me to stand on the sidelines in different weather conditions. Catching the action through the lens and sharing it later on makes every week enjoyable.
As overtime ended and Solon walked away with the victory, I walked back to my car and put the camera away. I had been out in the elements and standing for close to three hours but still had a smile on my face. I spent time doing something I love and it was well worth it.
Since I was a freshman in high school, I have spent numerous Friday nights walking into stadiums on nights like this one to watch a game. I've sat through rain, sleet, snow, and cold temperatures over the years. I've been through brutal weather before and this particular night was looking to be a cold evening on the sidelines.
Even though I knew it was going to be a cold night with the wind blowing and a chance of rain, I wasn't afraid. I knew the risk I was taking by being out there and had my cowboy hat, my hooded sweatshirt, a warm coat and my hiking boots to protect me from the elements.
Best of all, I had one a companion that has seen lots of weather like this over the years and was happy it was with me. That companion was my camera.
When I looked at the weather reports, I could have easily skipped the game and stayed home but I didn't want to. Even when the weather is poor, I love being able to see a great Friday night football game in person and on the sidelines. By adding on my passion of photography on top of it, I always have something to look forward to on Friday night and cannot wait to catch the game.
While the wind blew and the cold set in, I was happy standing on the sideline with my camera in hand to catch the game. Being able to participate in an activity I love at a function I enjoy going to makes it easy for me to stand on the sidelines in different weather conditions. Catching the action through the lens and sharing it later on makes every week enjoyable.
As overtime ended and Solon walked away with the victory, I walked back to my car and put the camera away. I had been out in the elements and standing for close to three hours but still had a smile on my face. I spent time doing something I love and it was well worth it.
Sunday, September 25, 2011
College Students: Getting Involved=Getting to Know Other People
As a student enrolled in a four year college, obtaining a degree and starting a career is the ultimate goal. Taking four years to earn a degree in a specific field of interest is the goal for college students and lots of time is spent in the classroom during this four year period.
While the time spent inside the classroom and studying is always important, what you do outside of your classes is equally important. Studying is always a must but taking the time to get involved with campus activities has the biggest benefit of getting to know other people.
By taking time to get involved, you not only give yourself something to look forward to, you also can provide yourself with a group of friends. The best ways to meet people on a college campus is to get involved with different student activities and you may find the people you are doing these activities with can become some of your best friends.
While building a friendship base through student activities is a benefit, getting involved with other organizations on campus will help you meet other people who work on campus. For example, when I served as the Promotions Director for Otterbein's campus radio station WOBN-FM (www.wobn.net), I often had to work with other departments and organizations for some of our events. I had to work with the food services department at times, helped planned an event with admissions, and the Campus Programming Board. With each organization I worked with, it provided me with another opportunity to meet people who worked in some of the other departments on campus. It helped me get to know other people around campus and more people had a better idea who I was as a result.
By taking the time to get involved, you not only can meet new friends but others on campus as well.
While the time spent inside the classroom and studying is always important, what you do outside of your classes is equally important. Studying is always a must but taking the time to get involved with campus activities has the biggest benefit of getting to know other people.
By taking time to get involved, you not only give yourself something to look forward to, you also can provide yourself with a group of friends. The best ways to meet people on a college campus is to get involved with different student activities and you may find the people you are doing these activities with can become some of your best friends.
While building a friendship base through student activities is a benefit, getting involved with other organizations on campus will help you meet other people who work on campus. For example, when I served as the Promotions Director for Otterbein's campus radio station WOBN-FM (www.wobn.net), I often had to work with other departments and organizations for some of our events. I had to work with the food services department at times, helped planned an event with admissions, and the Campus Programming Board. With each organization I worked with, it provided me with another opportunity to meet people who worked in some of the other departments on campus. It helped me get to know other people around campus and more people had a better idea who I was as a result.
By taking the time to get involved, you not only can meet new friends but others on campus as well.
Saturday, September 17, 2011
Combining Two Passions
While growing up, high school football was a big part of my life. I never played a down of organized football at all but found several different ways to follow my hometown Solon Comets. As a middle school student, I often went to games with friends and in high school, I helped the Solon Community Television station crew with televising the games by either serving as a cameraman or play-by-play announcer. Whenever the fall came around, being at a football field on Friday night was always a fun way to start the school year and another season.
In college, I didn't cover as many Friday night games but managed to work on the WOCC-TV3 crew for games or called them for WOBN-FM at Otterbein College. I didn't have as many Friday night games to cover and even though I was two hours away from home, being out in the crisp air helping to cover a game made me feel like I was at home again.
When college was over, I managed to make it to a couple of Solon football games but wanted something a little more. I enjoyed watching the games from the stands but I couldn't always find someone who wanted to go and it was much different then doing play-by-play or working on a TV crew.
About a year after leaving college, I decided to take my camera with me to a Saturday afternoon game Solon was playing to take pictures. The game was at Shaker Heights and with it being sunny, all I wanted to do was take a couple of pictures. Photography had developed into a passion of mine in college and I figured I might as well take some shots if I was going to the game.
Even though it wasn't a Friday night showdown, being on the sideline and taking the photos helped fulfill the emptiness and need to contribute. It helped me get into the game, learn the nuances of doing sports photography and I received a warm reception when I posted the shots on Facebook.
Not too long after that game, I traveled to Hudson for another Solon away game and brought the camera with me again. I managed to get on the sidelines for the game and had as much fun as I did the week before. The pictures received a warm reception again and I was asked if I could come to more games in the future.
In my third season as a photographer for Solon football, combining a childhood passion with my love of photography helped filled the void I had felt when I left college. Taking the pictures each week gives me something to look forward to, gives me an opportunity to do the photography I love and I have enjoyed meeting the players, coaches and parents. Taking the time to combine one passion I wanted to keep apart of my life with another I wanted to do more of has made the world of a difference.
In college, I didn't cover as many Friday night games but managed to work on the WOCC-TV3 crew for games or called them for WOBN-FM at Otterbein College. I didn't have as many Friday night games to cover and even though I was two hours away from home, being out in the crisp air helping to cover a game made me feel like I was at home again.
When college was over, I managed to make it to a couple of Solon football games but wanted something a little more. I enjoyed watching the games from the stands but I couldn't always find someone who wanted to go and it was much different then doing play-by-play or working on a TV crew.
About a year after leaving college, I decided to take my camera with me to a Saturday afternoon game Solon was playing to take pictures. The game was at Shaker Heights and with it being sunny, all I wanted to do was take a couple of pictures. Photography had developed into a passion of mine in college and I figured I might as well take some shots if I was going to the game.
Even though it wasn't a Friday night showdown, being on the sideline and taking the photos helped fulfill the emptiness and need to contribute. It helped me get into the game, learn the nuances of doing sports photography and I received a warm reception when I posted the shots on Facebook.
Not too long after that game, I traveled to Hudson for another Solon away game and brought the camera with me again. I managed to get on the sidelines for the game and had as much fun as I did the week before. The pictures received a warm reception again and I was asked if I could come to more games in the future.
In my third season as a photographer for Solon football, combining a childhood passion with my love of photography helped filled the void I had felt when I left college. Taking the pictures each week gives me something to look forward to, gives me an opportunity to do the photography I love and I have enjoyed meeting the players, coaches and parents. Taking the time to combine one passion I wanted to keep apart of my life with another I wanted to do more of has made the world of a difference.
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