Online dating is a popular trend in today's society. Those looking to find a romantic partner have signed up for and gone to various sites for this purpose. While it is a great way to meet others, it is also not an exact science.
From personal experience, meeting someone online is much different from meeting someone in person. For the online experience, you probably won't have any background information on the person prior to making contact. All you will know about this person is what is on the profile.
Below are some strategies for online dating:
1) Look to see what you have in common with the person reaching out to you or the person you are trying to reach - this will be key if you end up meeting the person. It is easy to go through the profiles and find random people to go out with; it may be harder to find someone you have a lot in common with. Try to find those with similar interests so that it can give you a basis for conversation during an initial date. You may still not feel a connection with this person, however, it will help in the long run to have common interests should things progress.
2) Try to have a phone conversation with this person prior to the first date - it is easy to e-mail and text over and over; it isn't always easy to have a conversation in person. One of the best ways to test if the person can hold a conversation well is by talking on the phone. Sometimes a person is more willing to talk on the phone than in person, however, it is better to get an idea what could happen before agreeing to meet someone. This is also a great way to gauge how interested the person really is and whether or not it is worth pursuing.
3) Stay away from those with bad attitudes - I know this sounds obvious but from personal experience, it will make a difference. I've seen people that put that the site they are on "sucks" and "doesn't work". I also came across one where the person thought "coffee dates were too cheap so don't bother asking." Personally, I read these profiles and was turned off by reading this information. I didn't think it was worth pursuing someone who didn't believe that the online dating was working to begin with and wasn't going to waste my time with someone who was most likely going to have a bad attitude.
4) Find those who are willing to return your calls, are interested and want to develop the relationship - it can be frustrating having to chase down someone who doesn't return calls, texts or communication in a timely manner. This can dampen the dating experience and put your time towards those who are really interested. It's a much better experience putting the time into someone who is willing to work at building the relationship than chasing someone who isn't willing to return correspondence. Your time is probably limited and put it towards someone who is willing to make the effort to get to know you.
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