Bad Attitudes Are Not Invisible

In my adult life, I have dabbled in the world of online dating. This world has led to some strange and exciting stories as I have met women from all walks of life. Online dating involves interacting with people you probably don't know from previous experience and in a lot of ways, is like going on blind dates.

I have had the good dates and the bad and have learned a lot along the way. One of the key aspects I have learned from these experiences is that a bad attitude in someone is more visible than you think.

Online dating involves reading profiles on these sites and trying to find someone who can be a good match. Some profiles have more information than others and I will admit, some were outright bizarre.

Reading through the profiles and participating in online dating does have a learning curve and after a certain point, I started to notice how negative attitudes came across in certain profiles. There were some that mentioned the particular dating site "sucked", "didn't work" and was "worthless". These people may have been frustrated when writing this and not thinking but it was apparent a bad attitude was there. These types of profiles became a turn off and I often skipped these to go to the next.

I didn't always see a bad attitude in a profile but sometimes saw it in the person I eventually dated or went out on one date with. There were instances in which it was apparent the other person was not happy in life based off their attitude towards their situation, how they interacted and talked to me and what was mentioned during the discussion over dinner, lunch or coffee. The attitude came out and was more apparent than the other person realized at times.

In addition to speaking with me, I often would look at how my date interacted with the server at the restaurant we were at. I sometimes would listen closely to see how this person behaved towards the server and could make an attitude assessment. If my date was rude and impolite, it came across that the person didn't have much respect for the server and it was often a turn off.

While my examples have specifically dealt with online dating, a bad attitude can visible in other settings. It can be visible where you work and where you interact based off how you talk with others and treat others as well.